February 1, 2001

Channeling by the Assembly of light through Abby Isadora Haydon

We would wish to thank you for your desire to seek spirit within all the confines of this present reality.

We would encourage you to think upon interpersonal connections. It is an area that is often difficult for many. There are many here upon this planet that seek within their hearts to experience the many potentials of relationships. We would encourage you to realize that now, that many are opening to the light that shines within them, that there will be many more opportunities to share of one’s self with others. The type of connection that we are speaking of is personal and emotional.

As the consciousness of those upon the planet is beginning to expand, you will receive many beautiful opportunities to interact on many levels with others. In the past, it has been difficult for one who is more progressive in their evolution and opening to Divine Energy to experience the connection with others who are not as open. This has been a problem for many, even this one through whom we speak.

Much of your personal interaction has been retarded. It has been difficult to find those who are opening at a similar rate of speed. There will be people coming into your life that you will have many reasons for connecting with. You will meet individuals who will be bringing forth your potentials.

Many are familiar with the relationship that they would term unsuccessful. This connection was agreed upon before bringing forth this physical form. Certain connections may have brought a feeling of unhappiness, a lack of fulfillment or confusion. You have been in these relationships for specific reasons. Know that these connections are very important for you.

Then there is another type of connection with one who vibrates at a similar frequency. This is a matching of vibrations on spiritual and other dimensional levels. When you meet these individuals, there may be an instant recognition. This will be more like being with a mirror that reflects back to you who you are. There will be a synchronization of energy integration that is not possible with one who is not vibrating at the same life frequency. These connections are very beautiful and powerful indeed. They are bringing forth great opening and healing.

As you may realize, there are many types of connections coming forth that do not fit into the social structures that are presently in existence for personal relationships. These are opportunities for sharing and experiencing the beauties at the new frequencies that you will be able to share with those who are vibrating with a similar resonance.

Many individuals find the need to connect, even though it might not be appropriate in the traditions that are presently in existence on this earth plane. It may be possible that you reside in an area that has much restriction and structured ideas and heavy thought forms that are in conflict with what you are feeling in the area of personal interconnections.

We would encourage you to realize that there are on two levels of connection when you are approaching personal relationship. The first level may be very simple. You meet someone that you are attracted to. This is a level where this connection is appealing to the body, the emotions and many other aspects of this nature.

Then you will find others that you may resonate with on a higher frequency. There may or may not be a physical attraction. It may be possible for one person to have both of these types of relationships. It may not be possible for one person to fill both of these needs.

This creates what may be considered a dilemma. There may be a simpler, emotional, physical attraction to one person and a very profound spiritual connection to another that you would also wish to have physical expression with. It is possible for both of these types of interactions to be shared with one person. Yet it is also possible for only one of these two components to exist in a relationship.

We would wish to encourage you not to be bound by the restrictions of your current traditions. Know that new traditions are forming. New structures for personal interactions are coming forth. You may find that you have an emotional, physical, sexual relationship with one person for one reason and another type of relationship with the same type of interaction with another person that may have a strong spiritual presence. It may be there to bring forth healing, opening and teaching.

The concept of marriage and partnering, at this point in time, is going through great turmoil and transformation. It is for this reason that there are many divorces, separations and changes in coupling. When a strong connection comes forth between two humans, and there is emotional and sexual interaction, this can be a very important healing experience.

The new connections that are coming forth may not fit into the molds of the past. It is important not to feel guilt about this. Those around you might shun you because of your relationship choices. They may be giving you negative responses to your actions. It is important to realize that even you cannot understand many of the reasons of why you are connected to a person in one way and then want to be with another for other reasons.

Many people are coming together to experience their own soul fragments through their interactions with others. One person may bring you to experience a hidden part of yourself. This may be done to help this part of you evolve. To say the least, it is a very complex situation. You are being spread through many dimensions and frequencies. Many aspects of you are here on this level. You are not simply of this one body in this one time.

To truly know and accept the profundity of this concept is to realize that parts of you may need intimate interaction with more then one person in this lifetime.

This healing and opening is bringing interactions that many that difficult. They do not fit the traditional social structures. They do not fit the traditional ways of being. Know that these complicated interactions that have untidy overlaps are very much a part of the new energies and frequencies. Now is a time of restructuring and energizing. In 500 years in the future it will not be unheard of or uncomfortable for one person to have several partners and live together with them all. One may have several situations going on at one time without shame, guilt or hiding. They will be able to honor the interactions with others on all levels.

This is a concept that is difficult for many to grasp at this point in the evolution of your social structures. Know that, in a sense, you are pioneers. You may wish to think differently. You may understand that there may be more then one primary connection in your lifetime.

You are speeding up your evolution if situations promote your interaction with more then one person. Know that this is much of the reason as to why many will be divorced or separated or simply go in different directions.

Some may be having a relationship to bring forth offspring. Another relationship will stimulate their creativity. Another relationship may bring closure to powerful connections of another dimension. Still another relationship may enact a connection that was never completed. There may be a new connection that has never been brought forth before that is being attracted from a harmony of energy frequencies.

To be open to these different frequencies and vibrations is to honor the many aspects of you. You will know if this is what is right for you. Do not feel that you must focus your being into one specific situation, even though that idea has been handed down to you by the traditions of your past.

The different time frames on this planet have brought about different ways of human interaction. This aspect of life here will continue to evolve and heal. People are realizing that there may not be the permanence in relationships that had been expected in the past. Being in the state of new partnering and coupling brings out the beauty in others in different stages of their life. They may be together, for a period of time, to complete energy aspects and stimulate the beauty in each other.

As we bring forth these ideas to you, we would wish you to realize that you are helping birth a new dynamic upon this planet. This is happening because you are resonating at a different frequency. To help you feel comfortable, we would encourage you to be honest and open. This new dynamic in relationships will bring many harmonies and many great wonders. As you are opening to allow yourself to accept this new pattern of interaction, are you also bringing forth the potential that you have here.

Please realize that in creating relationships with others, you must communicate. State what you feel is important in a relationship. State what you feel you wish to share. State what you feel your expectations are. Even though the foundation of the relationship can change with time and be expanded, it is good to communicate this. You may meet one that you would feel a strong emotional and physical attraction to, whom you feel a great comfort in being with and whom you would wish to reside with. If there is another that feels the calling of your spirit and what is important on a spiritual level, that the first person cannot comprehend, then it is important to be open.

The concept of possession is now in play here upon this planet in regard to relationships. It is unfortunate that humans think of each other as their possessions. In relationships it is thought that there are certain rights that may be brought forth. Relationships demand boundaries and restrictions. To be with another, is to enact restrictions. The spirits of many upon this planet are revolting against this. They know that it is not the true nature of the beings that they are becoming.

When one feels that they would wish to make a commitment, it is important to state the nature of the connection that you would wish to bring forth. If there are negative feelings from the one you are making these statements to, it is because they are being asked to fit into a different framework then they are used to. Their ideals and grids of concepts are being challenged. Threatening the old forms within the psyche of one’s mate will bring forth pain, fear and anguish.

Those who wish to forge a new way of relating must deal with the breaking down of these emotional grids of social interaction. It is this that is binding those that you are interacting with.

Know that if others cannot honor your honesty and your perception; do not feel guilty about this. It is their personal situation and personal experience that is being restructured. You are bringing them an opportunity for their growth and expansion. You are bringing forth a new structure of social concepts. You may be working upon this in your life, but you are helping many others rethink and recreate their perimeters.

Many are seeing that the relationships they have do not quite fit into the "Old Box" A new structure must be made. Those that are doing this are bringing forth a great healing for humanity, simply by enacting this drama in their personal life. Know that as you bring this forth are you also setting up a resonance for many others to do this. You are setting up a frequency that will help others to set up their own unique framework for relationship.

We would wish to give you some guidelines for this new concept of relationship.

First of all, state your feelings for the other person, once there has been some interaction. You will come to a time when you will be able to state what it is that you feel for another.

Secondly, it is important to state what you feel is the potential of this interaction.

Thirdly, state what you feel the boundaries would be. If you feel that you can find total satisfaction for all aspects of yourself in this one person, then bring this forth. If you feel that there is something missing, and you feel that you need to be open in perceiving that in another, even in a limited way, then bring this forth. If the one that you are sharing this information with cannot accept this, then it is important to work within whatever framework can be accepted.

It would be good to have a time period to think about this. No permanent decisions should be made. A period of three to four weeks to three to four months may be thought of as a valuable time frame to ingest these ideas. This will give all involved time to think about what a relationship is for them. Time must be taken to work within the heart and the mind of the individuals in question. The individual will have a restructuring of their belief systems. This will allow new and unique ways of coupling to come into manifestation.

You are bringing opportunities for those that you will never meet. When enough are honoring the callings within themselves it allows others to tap into this take up this new grid for interrelationship. You are all helping each other to bring forth this new frequency of relationship and social interaction.

* This is an excerpt from a personal reading. I hope it will bring peace and understanding to many.